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The 90/10 Principle

Author : Stephen Covey ( Management Guru)



Have you read this before?

Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the
way you react to situations). What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided
by how you react. What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot
stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving,
which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in
traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different.
You determine the other 90%.

How?

By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control
your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you
react.

Let's use an example.

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a
cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what
just what happened. What happens next will be determined by how you
react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup
over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your
spouse and criticize her forplacing the cup too close to the edge of
the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and
change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been
too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She
misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush
to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late,
you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute
delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your
daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving
at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.
Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse
and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you
find a small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why?

Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?



The answer is " D".

You had no control over what happened with the coffee.

How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently
say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time".
Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and
your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window
and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive
5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on
how good the day you are having.



Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

Why?Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other
90% was determined by your reaction.



Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.

If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let
the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the
negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your
day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired,
getting stressed out etc.



How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?

Do you lose your temper?

Pound on the steering wheel? (A friend of mine did and the steering
wheel fell off)

Do you curse?

Does your blood pressure skyrocket?

Do you try and bump them?

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars
ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.



You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It
will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another
job.



The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day.
Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no
control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the
other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at
the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this
principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from
undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. There never seem to
be a success in life.

Bad days follow bad days.

Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. There is constant
stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time.
Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to
the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel.
Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged..



You can be different!

Understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life.........!!!!!!!

People, do me a favor hahaha.. I need to know myself better.. so..

Johari Window and..
Nohari Window thank u.. :P

anybody has the song Ebony & Ivory?? desperately looking for one..

Look at my guy ! Look at my guy!! xDDDDDDD~ clickety!

Kinda true. Learning new language is like running a new software in your brain. clickety!

taking a look back on my entries yang ada di ~eien_ai ama ~cl4ssicp4r4digm ini yang awal2, duh rasanya camen banget tuh yah dulu. hahha. dramaqueen banget. :) but well, natural process :) kalo di masa2 itu gua uda duluan dewasa skrg mah uda kaga seru kaga pernah ngelewatin sesuatu yang alami. hihi.

lucu dah dulu asli suka plinplan banget apalagi yang pas mutusin mau nyambung ke uni, mau masuk uni mana et cetera et cetera. trus sering punya masalah2 gitu ama orang sekitaran, esp. bonyok hahaha.. asli deh itu abg sekaleeeeeeee... ^^ untung skrg uda kaga sih.. yah ga bole lagi hihi...

lucu lucu.. thank god that i lived it up to the fullest at that time. walopun bukan seorang achiever yang baik. hihi. gapapah. try again! ^o^

p.s.: dan ga kerasa uda temenen ama anak2 LJ uda mayan lama yah.. ada yang udah hampir 3 taonan ato bahkan lebih ^^ love y'all girls.. sorry yang cowo cm 1 di list gua ahuahuahuaha.

also, watch this

Letter from Kenya

Dear G8 Leaders,

Before returning to the office to write this letter I happened to meet one of my programme beneficiaries. I asked her what she was carrying on her back. Juliana Wangari, a widow, told me it was a sack of leftover food she had gathered from a few makeshift hotels across the slum in Soweto, Kenya where she lives.

Wangari’s two daughters died four years ago due to HIV/AIDS. She now takes care of her four grandchildren aged between seven and 13 years. They live in a one-bedroom shack.


She sells leftovers as pig food. As sole provider for her grandchildren she walks long distances searching for leftovers in order to earn enough to feed them. She earns about Kshs 50(less than a dollar) on a lucky day. Other days she is not so lucky.


Sometimes she may go for two or three days without selling anything. During these bad days she is forced to take credit from a small kiosk to feed herself and dependants. Sugar, tea and bread are luxuries she cannot afford. She only has one meal per day and light porridge in the mornings.


There are many more like Juliana within the slums of Soweto. People living in these inhuman conditions can only be helped by the developed countries cancelling external debts for poor countries, increasing international aid (- that would help provide for business loans for poor who cannot access bank loans- ) and justice in trade.


Most of the people living in Soweto do not possess competitive marketable skills for the labour market. To scratch out a living some are hawkers or petty traders. Generally, the area is characterised by urban poverty and decay as exemplified in the absence of roads, electricity and telephones. Water is nearly non-existent and there is no sewage system. As a result there are piles of rubbish and raw sewage. Disease is rampant.


I passionately appeal to you, on behalf the Soweto slum dwellers whom I serve, to note that money which could reduce poverty in areas like Soweto is diverted to debt repayment.


My programme helps marginalized and poor women living in Soweto. We train and help them identify and undertake small-scale business projects geared towards uplifting their standard of living.


We can only help more people by an increase in aid. Fair trade would facilitate and encourage more unemployed people to set up small businesses and thus live with dignity, which will in turn increase their contributions, to fight against poverty in more sustainable way.


I challenge you to adopt a more comprehensive understanding of poverty and to urgently intensify your work towards poverty eradication.


Respectfully yours,


John Seti

Programme Co-ordinator for Community Initiatives Trust working in partnership with Soweto Urban Development Association (SUDA), Kenya.

source: here

Name: Jeanette

Age/Birthday: 19/ 30th Apr 1986

Location: Kuala Lumpur (Malaysia), originally Indonesian though

Hobbies: designing things (well I'm a graphic designer on learning), taking pictures, reading good books, watching movies and playing piano/guitar or any kinds of musical instruments :)

Do you want snail mail penpals?: yes sure why not :)

Do you want new livejournal friends?: yes :D

What are some countries do you want to meet friends from?: anywhere.. :)

Favourite movies: well I got loads... to name some of it, Meet The Fockers, The Sound of Music, blabla babala i have loads, told ya :P

Favourite television shows: FRIENDS!

Favourite music: preferrably classical music...

Favourite foods/drinks: korean food, japs food, chinese food, western food, indonesian food.. hahaha basically any kinds of food ;P

Favourite books: the curious incident of the dog in the nighttime, the 5 people u meet in heaven, tuesdays with morrie, the little prince, etc...

^_^

my deepest condolences for all mandala airline victims... ckckckckcckckckckckckc.. too bad too bad... >.<"

gimana cara pake movabletype sih? hahahaha.

Did you know that true friends were always honest ?
If you're my true friend, tell me three honest things that you think about me and post this up in your journal so I can do the same.
Thankieeee (^^)

Speaking of slang Medan ama bahasa Indo yang 'sehat' itu, gua juga *dan bbrp temen* pernah ngalemin hal2 yang gituan.

My case
Jadi kan gua ada pesen taxi lewat telfon bbrp waktu yg lalu, sang driver tuh orang Malang *or Magelang gitu deh* Trus kan gua ga tau dong nomer platnya tuh berapa, takut salah naik yah tanya dulu : "Pak, BKnya berapa?" si bapaknya bingung.. bingung banget. dia jawabnya juga ngasal :"Iya.. mobilnya warnannya ijo.." LOL.. "Sori pak, maksud saya nomer platnya berapa?" "Oh... ******" :P

Another case of my friend's
Dia cowo medan sekolah di aussie, trus chatting di MSN ama anak jakarta.
temen nya : "da selesai ujian blon loe?"
temen gue : "gua sih uda siap..."
temen nya : "iya.. uda selesai blon?"
temen gue : "iye.. uda siap..."

heuaheuahuea.. gua juga baru tau kalo "siap" tuh arti aslinya "ready" instead of "finished" :P tapi di medan itu artinya uda selesai gituh..

other words..
di jakarta kan disebutin "kasur" yah, di medan disebutin "tilam"
trus di jkt tuh "pom bensin", di medan "galon" :P

uda.. kalo kepikiran baru ditambain lagi :P

Sekarang mau iseng2 ngisi quiz dulu.. *is meme the same as quiz?* ( Read more... )

Hihi.. iseng2 aja sih.. dada.. uda mau ke kampus... ada kelas :)

If anything can go wrong, it will
Corollary: It can
Corollary sent by Dr. Allen Roberds
MacGillicuddy's Corollary: At the most inopportune time
Corollary sent by Earl R. Johnson

If there is a possibility of several things going wrong, the one that will cause the most damage will be the one to go wrong

If anything just cannot go wrong, it will anyway

If you perceive that there are four possible ways in which something can go wrong, and circumvent these, then a fifth way, unprepared for, will promptly develop
Corollary: It will be impossible to fix the fifth fault, without breaking the fix on one or more of the others
Corollary sent by Sean Cheshire

Left to themselves, things tend to go from bad to worse

If everything seems to be going well, you have obviously overlooked something

Nature always sides with the hidden flaw
Corollary: The hidden flaw never stays hidden for long.
Corollary sent by Dave M.

Mother nature is a bitch.

Murphy's Law of Thermodynamics
Things get worse under pressure.

The Murphy Philosophy
Smile . . . tomorrow will be worse.

Quantization Revision of Murphy's Laws
Everything goes wrong all at once.

Murphy's Constant
Matter will be damaged in direct proportion to its value

Murphy's Law of Research
Enough research will tend to support whatever theory. >>YEAH RIGHT!! hahahah! cara gue banget ;p
Research supports a specific theory depending on the amount of funds dedicated to it.
Sent by Tony '68

Addition to Murphy's Laws
In nature, nothing is ever right. Therefore, if everything is going right ... something is wrong.

More Laws
Anything that can go wrong will go wrong.

It is impossible to make anything foolproof because fools are so ingenious.

Left to themselves, things tend to go from bad to worse.

Rule of Accuracy: When working toward the solution of a problem, it always helps if you know the answer.
Corollary: Provided, of course, that you know there is a problem.

Nothing is as easy as it looks.

Everything takes longer than you think.

Everything takes longer than it takes.
Sent by Jon Carpenter

If anything simply cannot go wrong, it will anyway.

Whenever you set out to do something, something else must be done first.

Every solution breeds new problems.

The legibility of a copy is inversely proportional to its importance.
no matter how perfect things are made to appear, Murphy's law will take effect and screw it up.
Sent by Mitch

You cannot successfully determine beforehand which side of the bread to butter.
The chance of the buttered side of the bread falling face down is directly proportional to the cost of the carpet.
Sent by Paul Breen
The chance of the bread falling with the buttered side down is directly proportional to the cost of the carpet.

Tadi barusan ada gempa lagi.. pusatnya di Padang, Sumatera Barat..
Sekitaran jam 1 siang waktu Malay.. so it's 12 siang WIB de..
gua ngerasain.. kecil doang sih

trauma bouw!